Patriarchy backfiring on men is not sexism against men.
There is no such thing as the patriarchy backfiring, because it as a system is a means for controlling society, not just women.
Patriarchy backfires when it turns a blind eye the rape and emotional/physical abuse of little boys who are supposed to grow into the dominant class… I could say more but obviously patriarchy doesn’t only control women. That’s not related to what I said at all.
I still disagree, because men aren’t ‘supposed to be’ or ‘meant’ to end up the benefactors of patriarchy. Emasculating, demeaning, abusing and mentally damaging men is literally part of the regime. I’m saying this because we really must understand that ‘Patriarchy’ is not a ‘all male benefit system’, and men are molded into their places into it, therefore meaning that they are forced into its ways, restricted within it, and punished for going against it as well. Patriarchy teaches all of us that men should be strong and emotionless, that they are more reasonable, but that they are also disposable cannon fodder. That since they are the stronger sex, they cannot be hurt. That since they are entitled to sex, they always want it an cannot be raped. That since they are supposed to be physically strapping they must made to be strong, made to endure pain. Since they should be more level headed they are taught not to have emotions, and therefore they must have their need for emotional expression neglected. I could go on. It’s not a ‘blind eye’, it’s the full intent.
Reblogging for those of you that have not seen this.
10 Things You Didn’t Know About Bisexuals
- Bisexual men are 50 percent more likely to live in poverty than gay men
- Bisexual women are more than twice as likely to live in poverty as lesbians
- Bisexual men and women are at least one-third less likely to disclose their sexual identity to their doctors than gays or lesbians
- In comparison with lesbians and gays, bisexuals have a higher lifetime prevalence of sexual victimization.
- Forty percent of LGBT people of color identify as bisexual
- Bisexual women are almost six times more likely than heterosexual women to have seriously considered suicide, and four times more likely than lesbians
- Bisexual men are almost seven times more likely than heterosexual men to have seriously considered suicide, and over four times more likely than gay men
- Bisexual employees are eight times as likely to be in the closet compared to lesbian and gay counterparts
- Fifty-five percent of bisexual employees are not out to anyone at work
- From 2008 to 2012, only $5,000 in grants were awarded to bi-specific projects or bisexual organizations.
What some feminists don’t get is that treating men as The One True Menace is not problematic because "ooh poor innocent men who don’t do anything bad and are treated with suspicion why don’t you think of teh menz"
It’s problematic because by reinforcing the view that only men are dangerous and potential abusers it directly helps female abusers with getting away with it and hinders their victims from being taken seriously.
And before you start going all “buhuuu man tears” on me, guess what? Female abusers can and do abuse females too.
Abuse, of any nature, be it sexual or physical or psychological, is not a gendered issue. Stop trying to make it into one.
When a guy is “made to penetrate” a female, is it rape? Long-suffering male victims are turning to Reddit to break their silence
This came up on my Facebook and started a very lengthy (and quite frankly, positive) discussion. Thought I’d share.
Alright guys, so my best friend’s family needs help. For the sake of their privacy and general wariness of revealing personal information, I’m not going to post names or faces. But recently, my best friend’s younger brother came out to his family that he’s a boy, and though they may not have completely understood everything, they’re helping him to transition from life as a little girl to life as a little boy. They’re actually doing REALLY AWESOMELY with it, and I’m really really happy that they’re such an accepting family, because all of them are doing their best to make sure he feels safe and respected! I’m super excited, and they’ve even extended it to me, so we’re all going through all these gender things together, and go to groups and read books and explore medical options to make sure he grows up with the proper hormones.
But their dad, who is divorced from their mom, is being really really horrible about all of this, and his new wife is absolutely awful. I won’t talk much about her, but we had to restrain ourselves from punching her lights out in the waiting room of a children’s hospital when she told us to stop “trying to make her into a boy because it’s not right”. Basically, their dad and his wife are horrible about this, and so their mom is trying to get sole custody of them.
They don’t have all that much money, but this is really really important. If you can’t donate, please pass this along, because I really don’t like the environment he goes to when he has to go to his dad’s house.
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PASS THIS ALONG THIS IS SUPER IMPORTANT! THERE IS MORE INFO ON THE PAGE IF YOU NEED IT.
PLEASE pass this along and signal boost the hell out of it, PLEASE do your best to take a stand against abusive parents who refuse to recognize children’s gender identities
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I hadn’t seen it, just took a peak and any blog that uses .gifs and poor attempts at humor to avoid addressing their own bigotry isn’t worth your disgust. Rad fem misandrist blogs may be loud and obnoxious and somewhat infuriating, but I promise you behind it is a sad little girl who is making no impact on the world so they retreat to their internet hugbox.
All I can say is, save your disgust for people who matter. Like Tony Abbot.
The amount of notes on this picture with the sentiments of ‘lol, that’s me’ or ‘muscle are ick’ is what bothered me about this.
Everyone is allowed to have a preference, and people shouldn’t be so sensitive to the idea of that their body is not attractive to everyone, but > 21 000 people openly announcing and joking about their dislike for a particular male physique like it’s fact is disturbing. What if I were to post a picture of a woman with the sentiments of ‘Omg yuck! Her body is gross! Big boobs are so UGLY!’.
It’s just plain rude to comment on other people’s bodies in this way.
I think I may have discovered why so many think it is victim blaming when we go against the statement “don’t teach women to protect themselves, teach men not to rape” and things like that. After a discussion with a friend it seems she thought that I was criticizing the whole statement, not just the part that says don’t teach women to protect themselves. It is possible that many of those who call us victim blaming think we are also against the part saying to teach people not to rape.
[Note form B] It’s possible, but I know when I discuss the matter I’ve always made it clear that I believe there should be both; self protection and anti-rape messages for all!
For those of you who don’t know, a 22 yo guy mass murdered 6 people near the University of California
Following this, a series of YouTube videos in which he talks about murder, suicide, and hating women has shot across the internet.
No one can deny that his videos are unsettling.
This has lead to an explosion of backlash from women’s rights activists saying that this horrid crime was the result of misogyny and male entitlement. I have even seen accusations that this crime was a direct result of men’s rights movements.
My response is simply that while we cannot rule these things out, in random mass shootings such as these, you cannot pin-point a cause. Playing the blame game is useless and insensitive to the people involved. These matters are complex and to answer the question of ‘why did he do it?’ with one issue is far too polarising. So stop taking your anger and hurt out on men and men’s rights movements as if these attitudes and behaviours are at all what they endorse. This one person’s disturbing actions are not indicative of ‘men’ and should not be used as a poster-case for ‘why we should fear men’. This one person’s disturbing actions are indicative of a whole host of social and cultural issues we face, many of which negatively impact men just as much, if not more than women.
Responding to a story like this with fear, blame and segregation may be intuitive, but it is counter-productive. That is all.