And Linda said something that I thought was very strange. She said that she was surprised that there were a number of women in the group that killed her family members. She said she couldn’t believe how a woman could treat another human being that way……
My question is, what does them being women have to do with anything? Why was her shock so greatly increased by the participation of women in the gruesome crime?
Why is it so shocking that a woman could do that to another person, but not a man?
What does this tell us about how we perceive men in our society?
[Note from B] This was an interesting submission to me. Women lie more often about more complex things; you could say they do this because the social pressure is so great, but does this pressure come from men? Or other women? Or from themselves?
I also find the ‘acceptable’ lies she lists to be interesting. Is it really acceptable to lie about an affair? Why are the lies women frequently tell deemed as ‘acceptable’?
there is such a thing as “positive oppression.” women are not placed in the draft because they are viewed as weak. women win custody suits more often because they are told to be barefoot, pregnant in the kitchen.
just a reminder.
Let’s assume for a second that this is true. I do not fully understand what is so bad about being viewed as a nurturer…. like, why is being viewed as a provider (ie: the expectations of men) so much better and equal than being viewed as nurturer? Who decided this? Because imo, both are as bad as each other. Why is society thinking you should be ‘barefoot,pregnant in the kitchen’ worse than society thinking you should be either chained to a desk or a gun?
And this is totally my personal point of view, but I would much rather society view me as a giver of life and love, than an ATM.
In regards to your latest commentary about assertive women being wrongly labeled as bitches
I absolutely agree with you! A little background on myself: I’m a gay male, therefore I often find myself being somewhat of a 3rd party perspective on the battle of the sexes that a lot of feminists insist on inciting. A frighteningly increasing trend I’m seeing in western culture is the unquestionable fury of women. What I mean by that is, there seems to be this line of thinking that when a woman is being unnecessarily loud, angry, and belligerent, we can’t do anything about it. We’re just supposed to step aside and avoid their rage. This is an obvious example of privilege seeing as any man who reaches a level of unnecessary violence will most always get yelled at, fought, and cast out from whatever group they were in. A lot of females, I’m seeing lately, are very unapologetic about their behavior. They incite fights with males, they physically assault males, they speak in a rude and absolutely disrespectful manor (and I don’t care who’s male and who’s female, everyone deserves respect) and, as a male, if you dare try to stop them from doing any of these things, you’re the one who is the aggressor. Another example of female privilege: being able to be as violent and unpleasant as you want, and not accept responsibility for it. I have witnessed countless arguments (mostly at parties in which people are drunk) where a girl will act irrationally angry at a guy, scream at him, hit him in the face, and be a (you guessed it) BITCH to him. And you know what? nobody does anything about it. Because if you do, you’re immediately met with that popular attitude of the girl always being right. Feminism has inadvertently created a culture in which females feel absolutely entitled to their anger and feel entitled to act out on it. That’s not being assertive or powerful. That’s just being an extremely unpleasant person to be around. And I have this horrible feeling that a lot of females take advantage of this position by being as crass and mean as they possibly can knowing full well that they’re not going to be challenged, for the mere fact that their women. I hope this isn’t the case, but what I’ve witnessed has told me otherwise. This whole debate about assertive women reminds me of my favorite female comedian, Sarah Silverman. In which she says, “You can’t be rude and thoughtless and selfish and just label yourself a diva and that makes that okay, NO you’re a cunt!” Now I might word that a little less shockingly than Sarah, by saying that ANYBODY who acts rude, and disorderly and unpleasant deserves whatever negative title is placed upon them as a direct result of their behavior, but I must admit I like her delivery a lot better .Females shouldn’t just get to complain about being wrongly labeled because they’re a woman and the world is out to get them without actually analyzing their own behavior first. They’d probably be surprised at how many men actually admire strong, independent and assertive women. But it doesn’t help when so many people would take the easy way out and blame the world for their problems when in fact they are their own problems. We as humans are fully capable of discerning who’s respectable and assertive, and who’s just being mean and nasty. I don’t care about gender, everyone should always evaluate their actions, realize the consequences, and accept responsibility. Maybe instead of “Privilege Checking” we should do more Attitude Checking.
This is a user submitted blog highlighting the privileges users have felt by being female.
Note that we are from the United States/Australia, and our privileges will not the same as other womens' around the world. We cannot speak for others, but submissions from all over are, of course, accepted.
This is not a blog intended to shame or ridicule women OR men. It is a reality that women DO have privileges, just as men do, and there is NOTHING wrong with having a privilege.